asian parents

I've got some time to kill so why not. How many of you actually have a relationship with your parents? I can only dream of having the closeness that 'becca has with both her parents. Good or bad, the first person she wants to call after winning a race, or feeling miserable are her parents. She tells them almost everything. Its really weird.

And yet, at the same time I still haven't told me parents about my bike (and injuries), the car (damn tree) or even this whole job situation. I assume my mom knows how happy I am with 'becca etc. The other day, my mom called to see if I was alive, and I had to call her back as I was already on the phone with my sister. I call back, and (surprisingly) my dad picked up. He knew I was gonna talk to her all I got was a "she's in the shower" and then I was like "ok"... 'do I say anything? chat?' dad:"ok, I'll her you called". *click* Its kind of sad, I don't know why I'm even more closed up to my dad. Even at the dinner table, when my sister is around, 80% of the conversation is between my sister and I, maybe 70% with our mom, and maybe 20% involving, facing, talking towards the direction of my father.

I'm looking back since I rented "Shower", a Chinese story about a father who runs a bath house and his relationship with his two sons. One who is mentally challenged, and the other "successful" one who left to go to the "city". I have been lucky in my life, with my dad being able to get past his illness over the years - and recently, with the death of my aunt (his sister) I know that as much as he jokes about dying, it will come sometime. How do I talk to him? There are many things we differ on but at the same time, there's so much I don't know.

For instance, (did I talk about this with some of you?) How many of you know the history of how your parents hooked up? Got married? (Heck, I don't even know where, or when, even an anniversary - and don't say "cuz you're a guy". Neither does my sis.) I've never been exposed to much about "them". I don't see the affection the way people do here...

Last week I ran into a childhood friend's mom. She was really happy to see me, as was I. The girl and I were never close, but I remember her mom, always being around, taking care of us. I thought about asking for her number but at the same time, where do I start? Its not like we were close before? She's just one of those very small links I have to the past... I suppose having children helps. The mother seemed really happy about having grandkids and was telling me my mom was probably really sad that I moved out of the house.

Anyway, I might as well end this by saying I've only talked to my dad once. And I mean really talked. It was fascinating - but getting to that point took a lot of fighting, which I don't need to relive. I know I'm supposed to respect him, and some are even to be treated like kings, or "Masters". I dunno...

just rambling. Going to my parent's tonight. I'm sure the conversation will end once the news/tv does. And back home I will go, without knowing any more about my parents lives than I already did.